Trouble in Paradise


Daniel T. Bloom SCRP

Ever hire an employee who you thought was the answer to all your dreams and then they report for work and their productivity is not what you expected. One of the causes for this is trouble in paradise. You think that you have offered the best of all worlds to the new employee and still he/ she is not what you thought you were getting. One of the problems may be that the child in the family is unhappy with the move.

In this era of trying to find the best merger between work and family, the relocation of the family can upset the apple cart. Let me provide you with a couple of real life examples. Not too long ago, I attended a conference, which presented a panel of transferees. Sitting on this panel was a young man who stated that when he was growing up, he one day received a phone call from his mother who stated that on the upcoming break from school, don't go home because your key will not work anymore, we moved. The other example involved our move to Florida. We are parents to a learning disabled young adult who was 7 years old when we moved. I spent two weeks after my relocation trying to resolve the issues around getting my son an appropriate education situation.

Children should be involved in the relocation planning from the very beginning. As much as, the spouse they are critical to the success of your hiring of that new employee.

So here are some suggestions for countering this bump in the road:

Children involved in the planning. From the point that the job offer is extended the child should be involved in every stage of the move. This includes the moving time table, the selection of neighborhoods and the amenities wanted in the home.

Dependents included in house hunting trips. Let the dependents go on the house hunting trips and make sure that the tour of the area includes a look at the schools and the recreational opportunities.

Personalized Newcomer kits. Many of the real estate brokers have gone to sending one newcomer kit to the parents and a customized kit to the child based on their interests. Some of the kits include an invitation to become a pen pal with someone living in the new community in preparation for the move to the new area.

Know the needs of the family. Make sure you understand all the needs of the Family members. If the child is active in sports or organizations like scouting have a representative of those organizations contact the child in advance of the move and extend a welcome to them to come visit the organization while they are in town for home finding trip.

Do not forget the friends left behind. Help the transferee allow his/her child remain in touch with the friends in the old location. We are aware of one parent who without telling anyone, relieved some of the stress involved in the move. As the family was packing up for the final trip; he had all the child's friends over to the house. During the stressful period, the friends all promised to stay in touch. What the child did Not know was the father had purchased plane tickets for the child's closest friends. When the child arrived in the new location and drove up to the new home, the closest Friends were waiting on the front step. Help the transferee defer some of the costs.

In this day of tight employment markets, children can be either your worst enemy or your best friend--you make the decision. Involve the children from the very beginning in the process and you will have taken away one more obstacle to a successful relocation environment.

Daniel Bloom is President of Daniel Bloom & Associates; Inc, a company who specializes in providing custom designed relocation services to corporations nationwide. By going to our website at you are welcome to join our relocation-issues mailing list. Ask your peers about your relocation questions. You can contact Dan Bloom at or by phone at 727-581-6216.